What are you doing

What are you doing?!

Over the last week or so you might have seen the question: what are you doing? The whole thing kicked off after Forbes named Kylie Jenner the next self-made billionaire which was controversial at best. Then the New York Daily News but you this tweet.

What are you doing? Kylie Jenner

Yep, anyone else feel a little gut punch when they first read that? I did. Even if you don’t think about the enormous privilege that Kylie has there’s something not quite right with this. I take my hat off to her for making a business and being successful from that but it was just damn ridiculous to ask what we were doing with our lives. It adds to this idea that we should all be at the same level, that there is an ultimate goal and if you’re not there, then you’re a failure.

I used to have a plan for my life. I was going to graduate with a 1st, I was going to get married in my early 20s, have 2 children by the time I was 30 and a career I enjoyed. I had everything mapped out until I didn’t. Hell, as I write this I’ve got no idea what I’m doing. I’m not married, I don’t feel ready to have a baby any time soon, I don’t have the best selling novel or a big job. Does that mean I’m a failure? To people who changed their minds or had a life change, are they failures? In short, no.

In the age of social media, it’s easy to forget that we’re seeing people’s highlight reels. We might see these super successful 20-year-olds or our friends with a ‘perfect’ life. We don’t see the sacrifice, the late nights, the tears. We don’t see the days where you look and feel like shit, where you want to pack it all in. I know for a fact these successful, beautiful or brilliant people have days like that. They are human, as are we.

There is so much pressure on us to look perfect, to follow a certain path. What struck me about it is the stress I personally feel about timelines. I can bet most of you reading have felt this too! Each of us are doing something with our lives. For some of us, that means getting out of bed in the morning, for others it might be being creative, raising kids or working a job. We’re all living our lives in different ways and that’s what important.

I’d love to hear what you are up to, however big or small. Live your life, and screw what anyone else thinks.

 

 

 

Vogue’s 73 Questions Tag

1. What’s your favourite movie?Love Actually, so many great people in it. 

Love Actually, so many great people in it.
2. Favorite movie in the past five years?

That’s so hard! Star Wars, The Force Awakens

3. Favorite Hitchcock film?

Haven’t watched enough to have a favourite
4. A book you plan on reading?

What happened by Hillary Rodham Clinton
5. A book that you read in school that positively shaped you?

To Kill a Mockingbird – Harper Lee, made me think about race issues.
6. Favorite TV show that’s currently on?

None, Game of Thrones is over.
7. On a scale of one to ten how excited are you about life right now?

About a 7, could be more exciting!
8. iPhone or Android?

iPhone, always.
9. Twitter or Instagram?

Twitter.
10. Who should EVERYONE be following right now?

Me 😛
11. What’s your favourite food?

Pasta, all the pasta.
12. Least favourite food?

Watermelon. Gross beyond gross.
13. What do you love on your pizza?

Meat, lots of meat! Or different cheeses.
14. Favorite drink?

Coke
15. Favorite dessert?

Chocolate Sundae with warm Brownie chunks!
16. Dark chocolate or milk chocolate?

Milk chocolate on its own, Dark chocolate if there’s flavourings in it.
17. Coffee or tea?

Tea, always.
18. What’s the hardest part about being a mum?

I’m not a Mum! Well only to a Hamster.
19. What’s your favourite band?

Paramore.
20. Favorite solo artist?

Ohh that’s tough right now it’s Ed Sheeran
21. Favorite song?

Changes week to week!
22. If you could sing a duet with anyone, who would it be?

Either Hayley Williams or Lady Gaga
23. If you could master one instrument, what would it be?

Guitar
24. If you had a tattoo, where would it be?

I have two but I think my third will be on my shoulder.
25. To be or not to be?

To be
26. Dogs or cats?

Dogs
27. Bird-watching or whale-watching?

Bird-watching
28. Best gift you’ve ever received?

Handmade Harry Potter gifts
29. Best gift you’ve ever given?

Tickets to shows.
30. Last gift you gave a friend?

Chocolate 🙂
31. What’s your favourite board game?

Monopoly
32. What’s your favourite country to visit?

Hmm probably Greece.
33. What’s the last country you visited?

Majorca
34. What country do you wish to visit?

I want to go back to Italy!
35. What’s your favourite colour?

Baby Blue
36. Least favourite colour?

There’s very few I don’t like.
37. Diamonds or pearls?

Diamonds are a girls best friend
38. Heels or flats?

Flats.
39. Pilates or yoga?

Yoga?
40. Jogging or swimming?

Swimming every time.
41. Best way to de-stress?

A long, Lush bath.
42. If you had one superpower, what would it be?

Mind Reading
43. What’s the weirdest word in the English language?

I have no idea.
44. What’s your favourite flower?

Roses
45. When was the last time you cried?

A few days ago, Chronic Pain sucks
46. Do you like your handwriting?

When I have time to write nicely
47. Do you bake?

I do indeed!
48. What is your least favourite thing about yourself?

The amount I over think
49. What is your most favourite thing about yourself?

My perseverance.
50. Who do you miss most?

Ali.
51. What are you listening to right now?

Netflix, The People vs OJ Simpson
52. Favorite smell?

Chocolate
53. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?

My Mum
54. Who was the last person you sent a text to?

Ali
55. A sport you wish you could play?

Football.
56. Hair color?

Redhead
57. Eye colour?

Blue
58. Scary film or happy endings?

Happy Endings
59. Favorite season?

Autumn 🙂
60. Three people alive or dead that you would like to have dinner with?

Sylvia Plath

Ellen Degeneres

J.K Rowling
61. Hugs or kisses?

Hugs
62. Rolling Stones or the Beatles?

The Beatles
63. Where were you born?

Basingstoke
64. What is the farthest you have been from home?

America
65. Sweet or savoury?

Sweet
66. Lipstick or lip gloss?

Lipstick
67. What book have you read again and again?

Nineteen Minutes – Jodi Picoult
68. Favorite bedtime story?

None!
69. What would be the title of your autobiography?

Just Keep Going
70. Favorite sound?

Happy Hamster Noises
71. Favorite animal?

Dwarf Hamster
72. Who is your girl crush?

I have many
73. Last photograph you took?

Stuff I’m selling online

My Blogging Journey in 10 questions

I get asked a lot about blogging once people find out about my website, so I thought I’d share my journey in 10 questions for my lovely readers. So, here we go.

Why did you start blogging?

My very first blog was to review my bookcase, as a reason to keep all my books. For this blog, I wanted to document my uni experience and it’s become so much more!

How has blogging changed for you?

My confidence, people read what I write. It’s made me realise I can write and it’s good enough for people to read.

What’s the BEST part of blogging?

Being able to connect with people, exchanging stories!

What’s the worst part of blogging?

Comparing yourself to others. It’s so easy to look and go why aren’t I at their level? It’s often a case of right place, right time added to hard work.

How do you schedule?

I used to be SO good at scheduling. Now if I can I try and schedule a week in advance but it doesn’t always go to plan…

Do you keep track of stats?

I have a spreadsheet (because I’m a total spreadsheet geek) to keep an eye on how I’m doing, what’s working and what’s not.

What makes you keep blogging?

Every now and again, I’ll get a message for a comment from someone about how my blog has been positive for them or helped in some way. It makes me feel good. That and I enjoy it!

What are your blogging goals?

  • To raise awareness of Mental Health
  • To work with some brands to promote something I love
  • To reach 5K Twitter followers
  • To use my blogging experience to write my own book

What do you want your blog to achieve if anything?

To raise awareness of Mental Health first and foremost.

What’s your top tip for new bloggers?

Keep going! Talk to other bloggers and push on through any writer’s block!

 

If you’d like to use these questions too then make sure to let me know! Leave links in the comments below 🙂

25 Get to know me questions

My friend AshaOnline posted this a little while ago, I liked her answers so I thought I’d give it a go myself. Make sure you also pop over to Asha’s blog she’s just starting and has some really cool stuff!

Are you named after anyone?
First name, no, middle name yes after my aunt.

When was the last time you cried?

It’s a regular occurrence, I’m an emotional person

Do you have kids?
No, but I have a hamster who I love as much as a kid.

If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself?
I think so, I’m a good friend.

Do you use sarcasm a lot?
Noooooooo. Does that give you an answer?

What’s the first thing you notice about people?
Their personality

What is your eye colour?
Blue

Scary movie or happy endings?
Happy Endings

Favourite smells?
Chocolate, fresh washing, outside post rain

What’s the furthest you’ve ever been from home?
US of A

Do you have any special talents?
I can sing?

Where were you born?
Basingstoke

What are your hobbies?
Reading, Writing, Funko Pop collecting

Do you have any pets?
Just one, a hamster named Wickett

Do you have any siblings?One sister, she’s my fave.

One sister, she’s my fave.

What do you want to be when you grow up?

Happy! That’s all that matters!

Who was your first best friend?

Kara
How tall are you?

5ft1. No, I’m serious.

Funniest moment throughout School?

Honestly, can’t think of one, school sucked

How many countries have you visited?

I want to say 6?

What was your favorite/worst subject in High School?

Favourite I was Drama, worst was PE and/or Maths

What is your Favorite drink? Animal? Perfume?

Tea, Hamster, Fantasy
What would you (or have you) name your children?

I have a few ideas but I’m not sharing them!
What Sports do you play/Have you played?

I’m not really a sports person, I used to ride but wasn’t on a team.
Who are some of your favourite YouTubers?

Carrie Hope Fletcher, Hannah Witton, Emma Blackberry, Cherry Wallis, Giovanna Fletcher, Cece from ProblemsofaBookNerd
How many Girlfriends/Boyfriends have you had?

Serious, 1.
Favourite memory from childhood?

Disney world!
How would you describe your fashion sense?

Comfortable but conscious of looking good.
What phone do you have? (iOS v Android?)

iPhone, always iPhone.

Tell us one of your bad habits!

Rushing.

Got any more questions? Let me know in the comments below!

Why do I blog? Two years on and what started it all.

For the last few days I’ve been spending my time with some great students. These guys are around 16/17, just finished their first year of college or sixth form and are thinking about going to university and we got to show them around, take them to taster lectures and answer any questions that they had. So I loved working with these guys and they asked some great questions, one of which really got me thinking. Why do I blog?

Ah! Why do I blog? I really had to think so I just kind of went through the last few years and realised that it might be an idea to share it with you guys. SO first blog, my first blog was about books surprise, surprise.Basically my Mum was always nagging me to get rid of some books every time I bought new ones, so as a reason to keep them I set out to review as many as possible and fell in love with it. I done that weekly for about two years until I realised that I wanted to write about my experiences of uni.

I wanted to create a second blog for a while and played around with ideas and themes while I was 18 until I realised what wanted to read. I wanted to read about people like me. People who had no idea about uni, started completely clueless and to tell the truth about what it was really like. Around the same time I finally got a mental health diagnoses and I was passionate about including that too. So this blog was born on the 1st September 2013 (although it’s changed names several times before I realised my own name was pretty awesome).

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The beautiful picture of a very fresh faced looking me the week I got into university, aww. 

I knew what I wasn’t your typical student, at the time I didn’t really go out drinking, I was in a long term relationship and I had terrible Anxiety and Depression related issues. BUT! I knew I wanted to write almost every day about my experiences and my life so that others could find it and have a reference point and someone to ask questions too.

My reasons have evolved over the years such as: 

– I love to write every day, it keeps me constantly thinking and in practice

– Mental health is important and needs as much help as possible to beat the stigma 

– You don’t get a manual on how to be a student…so you might as well have some true experiences 

– I love talking to people! I have some great friends online now, like Caitlin, Alwyn Ash and so many more! 

– I had no idea what uni was about and was fed up of generic guides which were all positive! 

– I absolutely love it 

So why do I blog? For so many different reasons but mostly because I genuinely enjoy it. I’ve had people be SO impressed with the fact that I write nearly every day, but I just see that as normal. It’s not a diary (there would be a lot of swearing if it was) but it’s just me being able to reflect and share that with you all.

So I’m nearly two year in now and I love it. I plan to carry on this blog for as long as I possibly can really. I also want it to get better! I have already started my weekly book reviews, a few opinion pieces and I will be starting more top 10 and uni advice blogs! I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this and if you’re even slightly considering creating your own blog, go and do it! Why not! Drop me a comment with your blogs below and I will try to follow as many as possible.

Thanks for reading guys and check back in tomorrow for a new book review! Also can I please say thank you SO much to everyone who has followed me, I now have 600 followers! I want to get to 1000 by Christmas and who knows I might do some kind of prize…ohhhhhhh!

99 beautifully useless questions.

It’s time again, I thought, for a silly post. Something fun and light with a few laughs, something I need right now. So here are 99 questions that I found on Macup101, I hope you enjoy.

1: Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed?
When I was a kid I had to check it then close it. Now I’m older (and sleep in the same room as someone else) I’m generally not bothered.

2:Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel?
Not really, I haven’t been to any hotels where they were that posh.
3:Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out?
They always end up out, messy and wrapped around me.

4:Have you ever stolen a street sign before?
…do people do that? As in that’s actually a thing?

5:Do you like to use post-it notes?
Obsessed. Reminders everywhere.

6:Do you cut out coupons but then never use them?
I don’t cut them out but if I get them I use about half and the other half end up in the bottom of my bag somewhere.

7:Would you rather be attacked by a big bear or a swarm of a bees?
At least a bear would be quick…I’d hope.

8:Do you have freckles?
All over my face, I’ve always been fond of them.

9:Do you always smile for pictures?
Not always, I stick my tongue out quite a lot.

10:What is your biggest pet peeve?
When people file their nails near me, no, no ,no.

11:Do you ever count your steps when you walk?
Not really, if I wanted to I’d get a little counter.

12:Have you ever peed in the woods?
Nope

13:What about pooped in the woods?
No, what if a squirrel was watching or something bit my butt?

14:Do you ever dance even if there’s no music playing?
Yes! Especially if something goes well or I do something right.

15:Do you chew your pens and pencils?
Yup, not as much as I used to but it’s definitely there.

number 16 was skipped out, so I’ll make my own

What is something you cherish from childhood?

My teddy bear, if I go somewhere for more than one night most of the time he comes too. Yes I’m 20, no I don’t care.

17:What size is your bed?
Double

18:What is your Song of the week?
Hmmm I’ve had It’s a Hard Knock Life stuck in my head for the past few days…yes the one from Annie. This ORIGINAL.

19:Is it okay for guys to wear pink?
Of course, colours don’t have gender!

20:Do you still watch cartoons?
Of course

21:What’s your least favorite movie?
least favourite? why would I remember that?

22:Where would you bury hidden treasure if you had some?
That’s for me to know 😉

23:What do you drink with dinner?
Some kind of soft drink, or water.

24:What do you dip a chicken nugget in?
Ketchup or BBQ sauce ofc

25:What is your favorite food?
Chocolate or if you mean ‘proper’ food, pasta 🙂

26:What movies could you watch over and over and still love?
Desparately Seeking Susan

The Devil Wears Prada

Most of the Disney collection

The Fault in Our Stars

27:Last person you kissed/kissed you?
My boyfriend 🙂

28:Were you ever a boy/girl scout?
I was a Brownie (UK for girl scout)

29:Would you ever strip or pose nude in a magazine?
Yes, I have absolutely no problem with posing nude as long as it’s done tastefully.

30:When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper?
I don’t know about letters but I’ve written a lot of thank you notes in the last few months.

31:Can you change the oil on a car?
Of course I can, I’m a driver!

32:Ever gotten a speeding ticket?
Nope

33:Ever ran out of gas?
Nope

34:Favorite kind of sandwich?
Boxing Day (the day after Christmas) Turkey sandwiches

35:Best thing to eat for breakfast?
I don’t have it often but a chocolate pastry

36:What is your usual bedtime?
Around midnight

37:Are you lazy?
I can be, apart from when I’m a work I am definitely a workaholic.

38:When you were a kid, what did you dress up as for Halloween?
A witch mostly or a vampire.

39:What is your Chinese astrological sign?
Dog.

40:How many languages can you speak?
English, I wish I could learn more but they just don’t seem to stick in my head.

41:Do you have any magazine subscriptions?
Not any more.

42:Which are better legos or lincoln logs?
I don’t know what lincoln logs are but there’s not much that’s better than Lego.

43:Are you stubborn?
Yes. Hell yes.

44:Who is better…Leno or Letterman?
Ellen…that answer was already here and I totally agree

45:Ever watch soap operas?
Yup, catch up on EastEnders every now and again.

46:Are you afraid of heights?

I’m not petrified, but I don’t like them.

47:Do you sing in the car?
In a traffic jam I might as well be considered entertainment.

48:Do you sing in the shower?
That or make important decisions, depends on my mood.

49:Do you dance in the car?
Yes, of course. Who doesn’t?

50:Ever used a gun?
Only a BB Gun. I’d like to shoot a real one at some point just to know how in case I ever needed it (i.e someone was going to try and really hurt me).

51:Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer?
Back in March, Awards Ceremony.

52:Do you think musicals are cheesy?
They can be but if you have a good enough story and a good enough piece they can be incredible.

53:Is Christmas stressful?

It’s not too bad for me. I mean of course it’s a bit stressful but I’m not at the point of having to book for anyone or anything like that yet.

54:Ever eat a pierogi?
A what now?

55:Favorite type of fruit pie?
None, I only eat savoury pies.

56:Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid?
Page 3 model, Singer, Actress.

57:Do you believe in ghosts?
I don’t believe in ghosts, but I believe in something.

58:Ever have a Deja-vu feeling?
Yes!

59:Take a vitamin daily?
Nope, super strength twice a week though, gotta love that vitamin D (y).

60:Wear slippers?
Only slipper socks, my feet get way too warm in slippers.

61:Wear a bath robe?
If a dressing gown is the same thing yes.

62:What do you wear to bed?
A pair of ridiculously cute PJs from my collection of them.

63:First concert?
Spice Girls 1999

64:Wal-Mart, Target or Kmart?
I’ve only ever been in Wal-mart and it was huge so I’ll go with that.

65:Nike or Adidas?
Nike

66:Cheetos Or Fritos?
Cheetos, but NOT the skinny type.

67:Peanuts or Sunflower seeds?
Sunflower seeds, yummy yum yum.

68:Ever hear of the group Tres Bien?
Nope

69:Ever take dance lessons?
Yep Ballet, Tap, Jazz, Modern, Street.

70:Is there a profession you picture your future spouse doing?

Sound Engineer…because he is one

71:Can you curl your tongue?
Uh huh

72:Ever won a spelling bee?
Nope, don’t have them in the UK, plus my Dyslexic brain would need some SERIOUS training.

73:Have you ever cried because you were so happy?
Yes and I love that feeling.

74:Own any record albums?
No 😦 I don’t have a record player.

75:Own a record player?
See above

76:Regularly burn incense?
Noooo I used to but I lost a load when I moved to uni.

77:Ever been in love?
Yes and I still am :3

78:Who would you like to see in concert?
Foo Fighters, please come back soon ❤

79:What was the last concert you saw?
Postmodern Jukebox

80:Hot tea or cold tea?
Hot obviously, who the hell drinks cold tea?

81:Tea or coffee?
Tea, always.

82:Sugar or snickerdoodles?
Sugar…I don’t know what a snickerdoodle is.

83:Can you swim well?
Fairly

84:Can you hold your breath without holding your nose?
Yup.

85:Are you patient?
Nope I wish I was.

86:DJ or band, at a wedding?
Both! Band until about 10.30, then a DJ till 1am 🙂

87:Ever won a contest?
A few here and there.

88:Ever have plastic surgery?
Right now no, but I’ll never say never if I was really unhappy with myself.

89:Which are better black or green olives?
Neither, vom.

90:Can you knit or crochet?
No, I kind of wish I knew how though.

91:Best room for a fireplace?
Living room.

92:Do you want to get married?
Yes!

93:If married, how long have you been married?
I’m not 😦

94:Who was your HS crush?
Ali, and I got to keep him 🙂

95:Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way?
Not in a brat way. I’ll cry and get mad if I really care about something.

96:Do you have kids?
Nope

97:Do you want kids?
Yes!!!!

98:Whats your favorite color?
Aqua blue

99:Do you miss anyone right now?

A little I suppose,

A quarter life crisis (five years early) – growing up, meltdowns and questions.

Sometimes I am sure that I’m actually still a sixteen year old trapped in a twenty year olds body. It’s my annual crisis, you know the one I mean don’t you? The whole, what am I doing with my life, am I behind? Look at what my friends are doing while I’m stuck at home. Yup all that came today. I’ve said it once I’ll say it again, the pictures of people’s kids, engagement rings and weddings make me break out into a cold sweat, I don’t feel ready for this stuff!

I get so worried about what I should be doing that I freak out. Never mind the fact that I’m not keen on having a small person around right now, would probably burst out laughing if I got proposed to and am too broke/ addicted to expensive things to get married. Yup, that pile of books get in my amazon cart, a sale on handbags well it would be rude not to look and as for Topshop? Well I’m like a bloody magpie.

So I sat this afternoon, like many hormonal girls before me, in my PJs, my hair atrocious with chocolate in one hand and a coming of age book in the other (book of choice this time Caitlin Moran’s How to be a Woman) sobbing my little heart out. I had a bit of a fit at Ali, locked myself in the bedroom and let it all out. I cried because I don’t feel like a grown up, I have no idea whatsoever about grown up things like marriage and mortgages and I don’t have a life plan. Yup, yup, yup feeling sorry for myself and a little bit of self indulgence.

I get told that it’s perfectly normal to have days where you completely lose your shit and feel like a child again. There are days when I want to crawl up into my Mum’s lap and let her tell me it’s going to be ok. Well, nowadays I have to settle with cuddling up to Ali while he does the same thing and assures me that doing badly on that one assignment will not balls up my entire life or a phone call to my Mum about what job I’m going to go into.

You can probably guess that I’ve calmed down now, had some good old comfort food and vented to my Mum. I guess I’m writing because it should be something we can talk to each other about, all us 20 somethings who really feel like everyone else has their shit together and you’re clutching at straws. So I’m allowed to feel a little lost and scared that two of my best friends are moving across the world and another is getting a real proper job with proper (not student loan) money. I’m allowed to get a little freaked out that it’s my last year of undergrad and the next few years are going to be grown up and scary because, well, that’s what you’re 20s are for right?

So I’m sorry to everyone who’s waiting for any big announcements from me, I’m still in Little Mermaid Pjs (thank you Primark) and working out how to be a woman in the first place. Basically, I’m just being a 20 year old student who doesn’t have a clue.