Happy 21st Joe!

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This is just a quick post to say Happy Birthday to one of the most amazing people in my life. The brother I never had, the most sarcastic bitch I know and just all around good guy. This is going to be your best year yet!!! Thanks for everything and here’s to getting through our twenteens together!

National Coming Out Day : To You

I decided to write an open letter tonight, to a friend who means a lot to me. I won’t name them but I know how anxious they are at the thought of coming out and I wanted to write to them and anyone else having these feelings.

Dear you, 

I know. You know I know. We’ve been over this a thousands times and you know I love you all the same. I want to say being gay is nothing to worry about, to me and to a lot of open minded people it’s totally normal and nothing to be embarrassed about. I’m proud for you and Jesus when you are comfortable enough (because that day WILL come) I’ll dance around at pride for you, because I know that’s not your thing. 

Oh and here’s another thing, I know you better than you think I do. I’ve known you were gay for a long time, I don’t know why but I always have to a degree. I never thought that you talking all the time to me was hitting on me, you never once looked at my chest, nor recognised what I was wearing. I loved it, even my closest straight guy friends slips up sometimes, although you agree I have great boobs.

The thing is, you being gay doesn’t mean you have to fit some stereotype ( I know you never will) some people try and intimidate you with a certain type of behaviour, balls to that! Be yourself which is who I LOVE you for. I don’t want to change you, but it makes me so sad when you get swallowed by sadness and confusion over something as simple as who you find attractive, who you love. I know though for you, it doesn’t feel simple but I promise some day it will. 

Being gay is just a part of who you are, it’s one of the things that makes you who you are, your funny, sarcastic and quirky and as other people have pointed out fanciable (although not to me, we’re way too close and that would be odd like loving a brother *shudder*). You’re sweet, kind and give a mean hug any guy would be lucky to have you, and they will. 

Any one who doesn’t ‘accept’ you (what a bollocks term) is at a loss. IF they let some stupid social prejudice come in the way of who you are and who you’re going to become then basically there is something wrong with them. We’re going to have a great time and I already accept being the best woman at your wedding and a god mother for your children (as previously discussed, I will be both a good and bad influence…your welcome). 

Basically I love you, you know I do and I’m here to see this through. When you feel comfortable enough to come out, which I am honoured that you did to me by the way, I’ll be there. If anyone doesn’t like it, fuck ’em who needs ’em. 

Happy coming out day! 

Lex Loses his Locks

There are people in my life that I’m proud to call my friend, Lex Benjamin is one of them. I’ve known Lex for a good few years now and I’d like to say I’m one of the few people to be truly close to him, I’ve seen him at his best and comforted him when times were tough, he’s done the same for me. Lex is also a great supporter, if we have a gig and he can be there he is swinging his beautiful hair and rocking out, that is what I want to talk about in todays blog. 

Lex has the most incredible hair I have ever seen on a human being. Long, blond, fun to plait and it matches his sunny personality. The man that has been called, Thor, Jesus (seriously), giant and many more is cutting off his beautiful hair TOMORROW. Normally I would be sobbing at the thought of his hair being given the chop but he’s doing something truly incredible. All of his hair is being donated to a charity, Little Princess Trust. The charity makes wigs for children with cancer and gives them to them free of charge, I know how lovely. It takes £300 to make a wig and so as well as donating his hair (the project of five years work) Lex is also trying to raise funds for the charity. 

Lex’s hair, people usually braid it. 

I don’t usually use my blog for things like this but the work this charity does is so important for little boys and girls who have really been through enough already. If you have even a few spare pounds in your bank account and would like to donate here is the link and Lex’s story https://www.justgiving.com/LexsLocks . 

 

Happy 21st Birthday Lex, you are truly one in a million.