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The Truth About Being in a Long Term Relationship

A lot of people in my life ask me about my relationship. Ali and I have been together for almost 9 years. We met at school and have been together since the ages of 13 and 14. This isn’t common and I only know one or two other couples who are in a long-term relationship in their early twenties.  There is this fascination whenever new people find out about us and there are a LOT of questions, so I thought why not make a blog post about them.

Do you ever feel like your missing out? 

No, not really. I’m in a relationship where we can do what we want to do. There’s no asking permission or anything like that. I’ll check we haven’t planned anything before finalising plans with friends, out of politeness. I can do what I like and so can he so I don’t feel like I miss anything.

Is it easier now you’ve met someone? 

I don’t have the same stresses in terms of relationships that my friends have, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t without struggles. We’ve been together 9 years so of course, we have disagreements and arguments. I wouldn’t say it’s easier, it takes patience, time and love!

What’s the best part of being with someone for that long? 

We got to grow together. We’ve literally seen each other through our awkward teenage years, through becoming who we are at university. We’ve seen some of the worst parts and some of the best. That’s really special because I’ve seen him become the man he is today and I love it.

Do you have to compromise? 

Of course, we’re two individuals with different opinions.

Dude, why aren’t you married yet?

Do you know how EXPENSIVE it is to get married?! It’s something we’d like to do some day but right now we’re pretty chill living together.

Do you feel like you’re just part of a couple? 

People often think of us as ‘Chloe & Ali’ but I still feel like an individual. I know what I like, he knows what he likes. We have similar friends but different careers, different thoughts and opinions. I think that’s really important in a healthy relationship.

What advice do you have? 

Other people’s opinions can be the worst thing for a relationship. There’s no set way to have a relationship, no strict timeline. As long as there is trust, friendship and respect then you do you!

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(8) Comments

  1. You’re so lucky to have met a great person so early! 🙂 you’re definitely not missing out. I would have gladly skipped meeting all those arseholes along the way. The funny thing about being in a healthy relationship is that you don’t seem to feel the passage of time. It’s just like you sort of… got together yesterday, but also got together 100 years ago, that sort of feeling. So I guess that’s how it never gets old.

    1. Thanks Evelina, definitely feel lucky. Yeah I’d totally agree! Thanks for reading 🙂

  2. This is so cute! Good luck to you both ❤

    1. Thank you! Really appreciate you taking the time to comment 🙂

  3. Good post. My husband and I met when he had just turned 18 and I was 19 nearly 20. Over 12 years later we are expecting our first baby. I love the fact we have been together since we were so young and have got to have loads of time together. The photos of the two of you together are lovely x

    1. Congratulations Gemma! That’s so lovely to hear! Thank you and thanks for taking the time to comment x

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