Heading To The Aisle – None Of My Friends Are Bridesmaids?!

Picking your bridesmaids for your wedding is important. These are people closest to you who you want to be in your bridal party. I have been a bridesmaid twice in my life, the first for my aunt when I was a kid and the second when I was a teenager for my uncle. So I’ve thought about who I’d have for mine for a long time. I got engaged and decided that none of my friends were going to be my bridesmaids.

Now, it’s not because I don’t love my friends or that I think they’re up to the task. To put it simply, I didn’t want any politics. I think when picking which friends will be bridesmaids you can alienate people or hurt them. I’m going to be 26 when I get married, that’s 26 years worth of friendships I need to choose from and, I didn’t want to choose.

How could I ever compare my best friend since I was 8 years old who lives in Australia to my bestie who’s kids are my godchildren? Could I really not choose the friend who was there the day we bought my ring over the ones I choose to go drinking with? And then what about the guys in my life? Leaving out some of my ultimate closest friends because they aren’t female? I hated the thought.

So, I made a decision early on. The only people who were going to be my bridesmaids were related to me or Ali with one exception. My sister was always going to be my bridesmaid, no ifs or buts. I’m fortunate that we’re really close too, which is a bonus. I asked my little cousin, she’s 12 years younger than me and I adore her. She’s my little sass queen but also the kindest soul I’ve ever met.

I also decided to ask Ali’s sister because we’re going to be family and I think it’s important that both of our sisters are a part of the day. And my last bridesmaid, but probably one of the most important guests (at least that’s what I’ve told her) is my Goddaughter. She is the only person who isn’t related by blood to us but this little girl means so much to me and this is like a dream for her. She’s already desperate to get her dress and pretty shoes. So damn cute.

And that’s that. Weddings are about the people who are getting married and for me (I don’t think Ali cares all that much who my bridesmaids are) this was a great solution to something that was taking up waaaaay too much brain space. My friends will all be there to celebrate with me, they know how much I adore each and every one of them and I feel more relaxed about not having to choose favourites.

Who did you have or are you planning to have as your bridesmaids? Let me know below!

Heading To The Aisle: Finding Your Venue

I’m back with a bit of wedding chat – hooray! Now, things have ramped up at little bit since I last wrote about feeling overwhelmed about where to start and what to do. We now have a date, a registrar and a venue, yep check me about! I’m going to become a Mrs on the 16th January 2021, eek!

With no doubt one of the biggest things is getting your venue right. When we got engaged I was reluctant to look at any big venues, I was worried about the money we would spend but thanks to a bit of gentle nagging my Mum got me to visit two of the bigger and more impressive venues in my hometown and, don’t tell her, but she was completely right.

To say I’m in love with my venue is an understatement, I got a gut feeling as soon as we walked up that this was the place for me. The first time I saw it I went with my Mum and got a full tour – I’d recommend going on an open day/evening as they will set it up for how it may look for a wedding.

My wedding venue!

There are a million posts online about what questions you should ask but my main advice is ask about things that are important to you as well as the boring admin things. For me the important things were that the ceremony and evening were at the same place, accessibility, the guests rooms and what we would be eating, for Ali the sound, the way it was lit and layout were important.

It has to be said that without our parents wanting to help us I would have set my sights on a smaller venue. I’m aware how lucky we are that our parents want to help. That’s something I will say, don’t assume either way. I didn’t want to assume our parents would help, so I didn’t look at the beautiful venues. Have a conversation with everyone involved and see where things stand – you might be pleasantly surprised.

Really, your venue should make you feel happy and comfortable. I could visualise myself saying I do in the room where our ceremony will be held. Also, take your time! I only booked ours so quickly because I knew it was right for us, if you haven’t found it yet then take your time to look around and see what’s available.

Heading To The Aisle – Where Do I Start?

You might have read that I’m getting married. Yep, this girl is heading down the aisle after nearly 11 years of the boy putting up with me – yippie! So, I thought that I might start blogging about the whole thing, I’ve always written about all aspects of my life and this is one I’ve been getting quite excited about.

I wrote a little while ago about how I really felt after I got engaged I’m pleased to say that I’m now feeling a lot less overwhelmed and starting to enjoy planning the wedding. That doesn’t mean I have any idea what I’m doing when it comes to planning. There is so much to think about that I hadn’t even considered.

Now, we’re not planning on blowing all of our money on the wedding. I’ve said from the beginning I want a marriage not just a wedding. So I’m not inviting everyone, I’m not spending thousands on a dress. This is going to be a wonderful day, but it is one day of our lives.

So, I’ve finally started to look at wedding venues, I think I’ve found my dress and have chosen my bridesmaids (more on that in another blog). Now I’ve gotten over being overwhelmed I’m starting to get excited about things and make plans.

I have to point out, this isn’t going to become a wedding blog – it’s definitely not my thing but I’m looking forward to sharing bits and pieces that I’m really excited about but not so much the different variants of cream bows.

And that’s where we’re at right now, I’m going to be writing more about what it’s really like to be planning a wedding the laughs, the frustrations and the excitement. It’s going to be a fun ride!