The Internet and Introverts

The Internet and Introverts

To put it simply, the internet is my life. Yes I am fully aware that sounds strange but hear me out. I was born in 1994, by the time I was 4 we had computers in the classroom, ICT lessons were a part of my education – we grew up online.

I’ve built a job for myself from my love of the internet so, really, it is my life. But it’s also given me more than that – it’s given me the chance to interact with others as in introvert. I can talk to people from all over the globe, I get the majority of my clients online, whereas I don’t know if I would do as well going out and talking to people constantly.

I know that there are so many people, some of you reading this even, who feel like they can be themselves online. Hell, I know I can. I can spend my time talking about books, about mental health, about anything I feel like and find others who want to talk about it too. It’s a good feeling.

At times when I’m lonely I can hop on to a Twitter chat and talk to other people who, like me, might also be at home alone on a Friday night with not much to do but still wants to do something. Likewise there are times when I feel alone or I might be struggling with something, there will be someone else who feels the same or similar.

While most people who read my blog can’t believe I’m introverted, nor can some of my family members, I find trying to interact with large groups of people so exhausting and I can’t fake enthusiasm when I’m exhausted, but I do get lonely. It’s a great solution.

Are you an introvert that uses the internet? I’d love to hear from you below!

Motivation…where are you?

We all get to that point where everything kind of slows down, I guess I’ve reached that point on the blog. I promised you I’d be completely honest and I need to say that I was starting to get to a point where I was running out of ideas. What did I want to write about? What did you guys want to read? Is there a magical formulae so that I can interact with a load of people.

The problem with that is you then start comparing yourself to people. I LOVE Hannah Gale, I see her blog in all its beauty and wish I was doing that well, I look at Youtubers and see how well they’re doing, then I move on to musicians (don’t even GO there). You get into this totally self absorbed spiral of what you’re not and then, for me at least, an huge tidal wave of anxiety. The conversation kind of goes like this –

My brain: What are you doing? Why has it taken you three hours to even start a blog post? 

Me: I don’t know I’m just struggling with what to write about 

My brain: Look at all the other bloggers, vloggers, musicians they’re all doing something why aren’t you? Also while you’re at it finish that assignment, you know you’re not going to get 70%  but you still need to do it.

Me: Gee thanks brain, I knew that already

My brain: Well if you knew that why did you get up, go back to bed, go on be off with you. 

Me: You’re right, off to bed I go. 

It’s this horrible conversation I have with myself, even when deep down I know I’ve been doing really well. It’s this approval that seems to be needed with online work, we’re anxious by the amount of followers, likes, subscribers and job opportunities we get. We want book deals and big houses and, well, to be like the successful people we see.

It takes a minute though to realise that although we see these people as ‘real’ most of the time people only show the best of themselves. Do I share every dark thought I ever have when I’m on a low? No. Does Emma Blackberry film when she has a huge block of what to talk about? I doubt it. Do I think that Hannah Gale is perfect all of the time? No, she’s bloody honest that she struggles sometimes and that is why I love her blog. And for the likes of my sister and her friends who are obsessed with Zoella, I have no doubt that there is now a persona that she has created for her channel.

I suppose I’m just working out what I’m doing with the blog, I never started it with the hope to make money. I wrote because I enjoyed it and I thought I could share my experiences with other people, which I’m still doing. Other than that I’m hoping to start some book reviews on here, once a week just as something different and I kind of miss my old blog.

So with that I think I’m a little bit more motivated…I wonder if it’s enough for that essay…

If you would like to read Hannah Gale’s blog (which I would recommend) the link is here.