Heading To The Aisle: 6 Months To Go & Planning During A Pandemic

Heading To The Aisle: 6 Months To Go & Planning During A Pandemic

Today marks 6 months until my wedding day! After being together for 12 years and being engaged for over a year getting to the 6 month mark is exciting!

So, where are we at? Luckily I booked a lot before we went into lockdown in March. I still have a fair bit to sort flowers, suits for the men, food options etc. People have asked me if it’s still going ahead, while I’m anxious about what will happen in January we’re planning as if everything is going ahead.

During the lockdown and covid I have felt a little disheartened. There are things that I always thought would be part of my countdown experience that I won’t get. In light of everything going on in the world they seem so small and insignificant but I won’t get them back.

I planned to take my sister to pick up my dress with me as she couldn’t go when I tried them on, possibly my Nanna too. I’m only allowed one person to go and pick up my dress next month (yes, it’s 4 months earlier than we anticipated!) which is my Mum. So there’s a little bit of bittersweet there as well.

Unlike most people, I also had a few different Hen Do celebrations planned. A trip to Disneyland Paris with my Mum, Sister and one of my best friends has been postponed to after the wedding. My big Hen Do that I know nothing about other than the fact it’s in London in October is being planned to go ahead. The final one, a meal with those who couldn’t or didn’t want to come to London is a quiet meal that I hope can still happen.

That said, I know that in the grand scheme of things I’m lucky. There’s still enough time between now and January that it can still go ahead as we planned. I’m trying not to think too much or get too wrapped up in the ‘what ifs’ – it’s bloody hard. I’m sending all the love to brides who have had to postpone.

So, 6 months to go and fingers crossed we’ll be in a much better situation then. If I’m honest the most important part is marrying the man I love. The party part is just a bonus to me. I just want us to be married.

Heading To The Aisle: Finding Your Venue

I’m back with a bit of wedding chat – hooray! Now, things have ramped up at little bit since I last wrote about feeling overwhelmed about where to start and what to do. We now have a date, a registrar and a venue, yep check me about! I’m going to become a Mrs on the 16th January 2021, eek!

With no doubt one of the biggest things is getting your venue right. When we got engaged I was reluctant to look at any big venues, I was worried about the money we would spend but thanks to a bit of gentle nagging my Mum got me to visit two of the bigger and more impressive venues in my hometown and, don’t tell her, but she was completely right.

To say I’m in love with my venue is an understatement, I got a gut feeling as soon as we walked up that this was the place for me. The first time I saw it I went with my Mum and got a full tour – I’d recommend going on an open day/evening as they will set it up for how it may look for a wedding.

My wedding venue!

There are a million posts online about what questions you should ask but my main advice is ask about things that are important to you as well as the boring admin things. For me the important things were that the ceremony and evening were at the same place, accessibility, the guests rooms and what we would be eating, for Ali the sound, the way it was lit and layout were important.

It has to be said that without our parents wanting to help us I would have set my sights on a smaller venue. I’m aware how lucky we are that our parents want to help. That’s something I will say, don’t assume either way. I didn’t want to assume our parents would help, so I didn’t look at the beautiful venues. Have a conversation with everyone involved and see where things stand – you might be pleasantly surprised.

Really, your venue should make you feel happy and comfortable. I could visualise myself saying I do in the room where our ceremony will be held. Also, take your time! I only booked ours so quickly because I knew it was right for us, if you haven’t found it yet then take your time to look around and see what’s available.

Life Update: I’m Getting Married!

Hello, lovelies!

I have been a little quiet on social media the first part of the week and that’s because I was keeping a secret and I didn’t trust myself not to spill the beans because…I’M GETTING MARRIED! Yep, that’s right this girl is going to be a Mrs.

If you’re interested in the details then read on, if you’re just here for the news, thank you!

As my regular readers know Ali and I have been together for 10 years after we met at school. We’ve spoken before about getting engaged and married but it wasn’t a rush. Lately, we’ve been talking about it more and so I hoped it might happen soon.

On Monday, we met our friends Ed and Emmi for lunch and a catch-up – no mention of getting engaged, nothing. While walking around Emmi and I looked at rings, half joking half serious aaaaand something weird happened. Ali was actually talking to me about which ones he likes, which ones I like. We looked at a lot of shops.

Then came the last shop, coincidently where we bought my necklace for my 18th birthday and had a browse. While looking, our friend Ed nudged the sales assistant to show us the engagement rings. I don’t know why but I started to freak out? Damn this was just looking right? RIGHT?

Then Ali asked to look at the two we both liked. We ended up choosing one while internally I was trying to work out what the hell was going on. Were we engaged now? The ring would take a few days to be delivered to our home, I was sworn to secrecy until it arrived and then I was asked…

LONGEST TWO DAYS EVER.

I avoided everyone, I didn’t trust myself and although I didn’t know when I’d be asked I thought it might be a good idea to go and get my nails done and then, after a day of teasing on Wednesday night Ali asked me to marry him.

I’m going to be his wife?! Which is crazy. We waited to tell all of our family and close friends before the rest of the world and I’ve just been blown away by how loved we are. People I haven’t spoken to since school got in contact saying they’d been waiting to see this. Work colleagues, people from uni. As I write this I’ve had over 300 Twitter likes which is insane?!

So, yeah, I’m getting married. I’m pretty excited and my fiancè is pretty cute.